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Western Farm and Ranch Transition Strategies contains a series of 10 short stories describing farm and ranch families struggling with the challenges of transitioning management responsibilities to the next generation. Learn their secrets and improve your chances of success.
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Each difficult conversation is made up of three, distinct conversations: the What Happened? Conversation; the Feelings Conversation; and the Identity Conversation.
Mistakes in Difficult Conversations
Mistake 1 – Our assumptions about intentions are often wrong. Mistake 2 – Our good intentions don’t sanitize our bad impact. Mistake 3 – Blaming the other person.
Contributions to Difficult Conversations
Mapping contributions to the problem can lead to a much better understanding of the situation. Ask “What is the other person contributing?”, “What am I contributing?” and “Who else is involved?” Understanding what has contributed to the problem makes it easier to examine all the issues, as well as encourage learning and change.
Feelings in Difficult Conversations
How we handle our feelings can often explain how a situation got out of hand. It is
best if we own our own feelings, while keeping in mind that: feelings matter, we often try to block our feelings, unexpressed feelings can make it difficult to listen, and feelings are normal and natural.
Learning Conversations and the Third Story
A learning conversation should focus on: 1. Learning their story, 2. Expressing your views and feelings; and 3. Working together to explore possible solutions. One helpful way forward is to begin from the third story, keeping in mind that there is: my story, their story, and the Third Story (the real story). Get the other person’s story, share your story, then move to consider the three conversations: “What happened?”, “What feelings were involved?”, and “What identity issues were involved?”
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The Management Succession Workbook provides worksheets, checklists and readings ranch & farm families can use to plan for and document their succession issues, a companion to the free online Management Succession 3-course series.
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View a free recording about how to have difficult conversations about important topics
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The Lasting Legacy Workbook provides worksheets, checklists and readings that families can use to plan for and document their own legacy issues, a companion to the free online Lasting Legacy 2-course series.
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* Do you find yourself avoiding difficult conversations?
* Do you assume you know the other person’s intentions when there is a disagreement?
* Do you find that you blame whenever things go wrong?
* Do you consider feelings an important part of a difficult conversation?
* Do you sometimes wonder if you are a good person when someone calls into question your identity in a difficult situation?
* The Third Story describes what really happened. It can only be understood after we understand the other person’s story as well as our own.
* A learning conversation works best when both parties are willing to listen and work together to find a solution.
FOR ANSWERS:
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A will is a document that describes the last wishes of an individual after his or her death, including how property should be distributed and who should manage the estate of the deceased person. A will’s primary functions can be divided into two categories: (1) those directing the distribution of the decedent’s estate and (2) those nominating individuals to represent the decedent and his or her estate.
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Anger has meaning. We should understand that if we are angry it must mean something.
When we’re angry there is usually something else going on besides the thing that is provokes us. That something else is how we interpret the provocation.
How should we respond?
Ask: How am I interpreting the thing, is that making it worse? Often it is at that level where we can identify the factors leading us to blow things up into a bigger situation.
Once we’ve established how we are interpreting a situation, we can begin to decide what to do with it.
Anger tries to convince us that we must act right now. However, we can take a moment to work to balance our emotions first, then work with the situation.
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